Out of Sight, Out of Mind One of the biggest traps many networkers fall into is the "busy" trap. Often times this is in direct proportion to the success of their networking efforts. However, being "busy" is not a good reason to neglect your relationships and let your network whither and die. If you fall too deeply into this trap you'll have that much more work ahead of you when you're not busy and really need your network's help. If you suddenly need a new job for example it's too late to 'start' building your network, it needs to already be in place.
The most common symptom of busy networker syndrome is not attending events regularly or at all. In the beginning your absence might be conspicuous. Over time though people won't even think about you. Out of sight, out of mind. It's really hard for people to think of you for referrals and other opportunities when they're not thinking of you at all.
In the worst stages of busy networker syndrome the afflicted will fail to nurture any of their relationships. They're too busy working to quickly touch base with even their most important contacts. They are soon completely forgotten, and in extreme cases written off because they fail to return phone calls and e-mails from those who don't represent a current paying client.
I paint a dire picture and in most cases it doesn't get this bad. The really good news is that it's easy to fix.
Beginner networkers or those building a new network in a new town or new industry frequently over commit on the number of events the can attend in a sustainable way. In and of itself this isn't that big of a problem. As their network begins to grow and time is less available it's important to determine which groups and events are the most important. Focus on those singled out, and commit to attending regularly even if regularly for you means monthly or even quarterly.
If you've been out of the loop nearly everyone will be happy to see you back. Again, determine where you should be focused and how much time you realistically have available. Then get those meetings on your calendar well in advance.
Busy networker syndrome happens to all of us from time to time. I can tell you that in some ways I've been there myself for a while with 2 little girls under the age of 3. The important thing is to recognize it when it's happening. Make sure you're not neglecting your core network, and work to do the best you can with the time that you do have available. [Hint: You may need to make some time]
Your networking efforts are not just about events either. You've already built relationships and those need to be nurtured. Pick up the phone and make a quick call to catch-up. Send an 'I was thinking about you' note. Put together an impromptu happy hour and invite your core network. It almost doesn't matter what you do, just keep the lines of communication open.
If out of sight is out of mind then the solution is really quite simple. Don't be out of sight, in fact be as visible as you can be. Work to be highly visible and top of mind.
Happy Networking!
Scott Ingram
NetworkInAustin.com | 
